Bringing up a prenuptial agreement can feel intimidating. You love your partner, you’re excited about your future together, and the last thing you want is to start an argument before the wedding. Still, a prenup isn’t about doubting your relationship, it’s about protecting both of you and setting a foundation of honesty. At Freedom Family Law, we’ve seen how clear conversations about prenups can strengthen relationships rather than weaken them.
Here’s how to talk to your partner about a prenup without starting a fight.
1. Pick the Right Time and Place
Don’t bring up a prenup in the middle of a stressful moment, like during wedding planning or after a long day at work. Instead, choose a calm, private space where you both feel relaxed. This shows respect for your partner and sets the tone for a thoughtful conversation.
2. Lead With Your Feelings, Not Fear
Start with “I” statements instead of “you” statements. For example, say, “I want us to be prepared for the future” rather than “You need to sign a prenup.” By speaking about your own feelings and values, you reduce the chance of your partner feeling attacked or blamed.
3. Focus on Mutual Benefits
A prenup isn’t just about protecting one person’s assets. It can also protect both partners from debt, clarify property rights, and reduce stress if life takes unexpected turns. Highlight how the agreement creates security for both of you, not just one side.
4. Separate Love From Finances
Reassure your partner that wanting a prenup doesn’t mean you love them less or doubt your marriage. It’s a financial plan, not a reflection of your commitment. Think of it like life insurance: you hope you never need it, but it brings peace of mind knowing it’s there.
5. Encourage Independent Legal Advice
Your partner may feel more comfortable if they know they can get their own legal advice about a prenup. Encourage them to speak with a lawyer independently so they feel informed and supported. At Freedom Family Law, we work directly with one partner to review the draft agreement, explain their rights, and make sure they fully understand the terms before signing. This protects both of you by ensuring the agreement is fair, transparent, and legally sound.
6. Give Your Partner Time
Don’t expect your partner to agree on the spot. Signing a prenup is an important decision, and it deserves thoughtful consideration. Be patient, listen to their concerns, and give them the time they need to process the idea.
Final Thoughts
Talking about a prenup doesn’t have to end in conflict. When you approach the subject with honesty, respect, and care, you and your partner can use the process to build a stronger foundation for your marriage.
At Freedom Family Law, we help couples navigate prenups with compassion and clarity. If you’re ready to take the next step, reach out to us today for guidance and support.
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Disclaimer: This blog post is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Every situation is unique. Please speak with a qualified family lawyer in BC to get advice tailored to your circumstances.